5 Ways To Deepen Your Self-Esteem

In this post, we explore five ways to fall in love with yourself and improve your self-confidence.
January 18, 2022

Do you often find yourself putting yourself down?

Do you feel like you're not good enough, or that you could be doing better if only you were different? If so, it's time to start falling in love with yourself.

When we appreciate and accept ourselves for who we are, our self-confidence grows.

In this post, we explore five ways to fall in love with yourself and improve your self-confidence!

1. Start Noticing Your Accomplishments

The first way to fall in love with yourself is to start noticing your accomplishments. No matter how big or small, every accomplishment deserves recognition. Maybe you made a great dinner tonight, or maybe you finally finished that project you've been working on for weeks. Whatever it is, take the time to appreciate yourself for what you've done! We recommend starting a little journal and writing them down. Then, once a week or month look back. You’ll be amazed at how fast they add up.

2. Forgive Yourself

Another way to boost self-confidence is by forgiving yourself. We all make mistakes. It’s just a messy, but natural part of life. Instead of dwelling on our mistakes, learn from them. Use them to understand your patterns and behaviors and grow more deeply into yourself. Then, find that space inside of you that lets you let go of them. Forgiving yourself allows you to focus on the present and the future instead of the past.

3. Practice Self-Compassion

A third way to improve self-confidence is by practicing self-compassion. When we're hard on ourselves, it can be tough to feel good about ourselves. But when we show self-compassion, it becomes easier to forgive ourselves and appreciate our strengths (see above). A quick way to let yourself sink into self-compassion is look at your life from the perspective of a friend. How would they view the situation from the outside? Usually, that allows you to get out of your own space and see it from another perspective.

4. Start Accepting Compliments

Fourth, start accepting compliments! It can be hard to believe someone when they tell you that you're beautiful or smart, but try to accept the compliment with a simple smile. Maybe you don’t feel it at first, but over time, let them sink deeper and deeper into your skin. Try them on and begin to embody them. Over time, you might just see yourself in a different light.

5. Embody Positive Self-Talk

Finally, practice embodying positive self-talk. This doesn’t just mean talking positively to yourself in your head. We are talking feeling the feelings all the way down your body. Rather than saying "I'm not good enough," try feeling "I am doing my best." When you begin to embody positive self-talk, it actually changes the way you embody yourself.

These are just five ways to fall in love with yourself and improve self-confidence.

But there are countless other ways to do so!

What works for one person might not work for another, so be sure to find what makes you feel good about yourself and go for it!


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